.Friday, October 05, 2007 ' 3:09 PM Y
My bestie never fails to give me one of the best advices. That explains why not only we are besties since secondary sch, we are also sisters in Christ. It is really amazing how our friendship grew to another level with the blessings we received. Here is a brief summary on our growth
Sec Sch : It was all about crushes and having lotsa fun! We love PE lessons!
Poly / JC : Went on different routes but still tried to meet up but totally not enough.
Uni / Wkg : Went gymming for a period of time after which we could not meet up again
It was not until earlier this year where we started our community service and we were back under the wings of God and from then on we had been blessed abundantly.
In every aspect, we were able to relate to each other and grow together. We were even imaging that both of us will still be having loads of fun when we send our kids to Sunday School and while waiting, we will catch up while waiting for our hubbies to pick us up. Or have regular gatherings at our homes to have fellowships and our kids will be best of friends too!
Simply amazing, how special this friendship is, as not only we are able to support each other emotionally but we are both going through the same things at the same time. By going through it, that is where we totally comprehend with each other. Not only is she able to make me think with her words but also enlighten me in the process.
Somehow, we share the same concept towards life. Many of us keep thinking we still have time we still have time but in actual fact we do not and that is where when we realize it, it is too late. Face it, Woman have a different biological clock as compared to Man. Sometimes, fatal casualties happen when u do not choose properly or simply by jumping into any rship with Tom, Dick or Harry. There are some truths which we human always try to deny. Accept the fact that feelings fade, the universal glue called attraction that you have in the beginning will fade. If you are attracted to a person’s beauty and not the character, it will be hard to sustain an rship. You should be in love with your partner’s character.
There are so many things to learn about preparing before we advance into another stage of life. I truly glad that im going through a series of sermons which teaches you the Truth in Life and how we should learn from it. Do you think a marriage can survive without proper guidance? If you think yes it can survive, think again. Y do we go to sch to educate ourselves? Since young, we are brought up that we need to follow "the way" in order to live life. Children, hold your partners hand, Q in two single file etc. We humans need guidance every time. Even in handling divorces, we need a lawyer to do it and tell people what to do. No matter wad, we all seek advices and second opinions in almost everything we do. We are living in reality not in fairytale. Do you really think that Love Conquers All? I beg to differ and if you are still living in fairytale, I suggest you to walk out of it. Many other aspects come to play and often, one of the few reasons for divorce is Money and character clash and many many other factors. Y wasn’t these an issue during courting period? Think about it. I can go on and on about what I have learnt through these sermons and how useful it has been for me and Cindy. Think I should share what I have learnt huh. It would be so useful for all to know.
It is important that two person is on par and have a common goal. If my partner’s goal is different from mine, naturally actions and priorities will be different. In this case, it is solely up to individual, if two persons don’t mind waiting, by all means, pls do, at least two persons are having the same goals. When I was a student, getting my degree was my first priority! Now that the stage has passed, I would, of cuz, proceed on to next stage. Reason because I know with my part time studies, I cant be planning much long term plans, simply no time and no financial backup. Next stage could be career but during interviews, your interviewer will ask you if marriage is on your mind. Thus before you head start your career path, you must already know where you see yourself in 5 – 10 years time and now 5 years is no longer far away. Now that im 24 (still, heng), and planning for my real career start and of cuz *ahem* , at least goals can be achieved by 30. Or even knowing when I have to disrupt career plans for family (when needed) I do not want to start planning my wedding when im 30. Thatz for me la, but girls nowadays are ok with late marriages. However, when you meet the right one and at the right time. NOTE : I added at the right time. Naturally marriage is something on the list. Is it only when it isnt the right time, then I guess, it will not be on the list or maybe one of them aint even ready to commit into something long term.
Singles : Be comforted that Your Right one is running towards you right now because its better to be waiting for the Right Time.
Attached : Do you find yourself standing "AT the RIGHT TIME" spot but somehow you seem like there is no direction for you? I shant comment much about this but it is really your choice. You are the captain of your life, only you have the choice to change it and live it the way you want it to be.
I am glad that my ROL has the same goal as me wkg towards it together! Imagine if my partner is not ready and I am the only one working towards building up for eg : the funds. I will be so tired by the time my partner is ready and by then I will be an old bride. I don’t want wrinkles in my photos! Arughhhhhhh *drama mode*
I dunno for others but for myself, I have to admit that do not want to have complications when I reach a matured age. I think exceptionally far as I am a low risk taker. For eg : Having babies. I rather know if I am able to conceive or not, at a younger age and treat it with medical help, rather than facing a risk of not being able to at a matured age and note, age is irreversible. By then, I will only live in regrets by saying, Y didn’t I find that out earlier. Don’t you find it familiar? When things happened, pple tend to say,” I should have done this earlier, or I should have done this and that.” Too late! Things have happened and we only live once, y die with regrets? Some mistakes we can learn from and start over but we can never start over a woman’s youth and “capabilities”. Of cuz unless you don’t want to have any then I shall rest my case.
I remember my bestie lived by the belief that she will never want kids for a good 25 years of her life. Under the grace of God, DD was sent to her. She changed. She cant wait to get married and have kids. To even go until the extend of serving in the kids church, I think its really good training for her. She too, like me, wouldn’t want to take wedding pictures and have kids after our youth has “expired”. It is a sad fact that we can only be “young at heart” when you are 30 or 40 years old but our looks cant hide age.
I came across this article about successful female bosses and Y they are still single. One of the reasons is that men feel intimidated by them. (Side track a bit :One farnie symptom I realized that women, with a certain age, tend to act weird if they live too long without love. They tend to be bad tempered and very rich) To those who are giggling, I know y. Female, by nature, are the followers in the family. When you term, Head of the House, who do you think comes into your mind. Isnt it the Man? For that simple reason, Men have to be the leaders of the family. They are the central control of the family. Woman rule by emotions, Man rule by rational mind. Thus in fact Man makes one of the best decisions provided he has a good follower partner. If Woman insists of taking over, the Man will take the back seat and not say anything. Tell me which Men want his woman to step on top of his head? Usually Men keeps quiet and let the woman talk. Simply because they want to avoid an argument, some term it as Respect. But that shouldn’t be the way. Women are at fault if we keep nagging and nagging. No men want to be nagged! Women, Respect your partner. This was smtg I learnt through Roles of a Man and Roles of a Woman. Amazing how they managed to hit right into the bone marrows of all with all the truths that we are found guilty of not following.
The above contents are solely based on self commentary. To conclude, different pple take different paths. Wads the need to think about how others think about you. Just live your life to which you feel it should be and be merry. To those who know me well, I come with no hidden agenda and would only state facts. It is my duty to tell my friends the truth before anything happens. It really pains me when any of my friends come back telling me that they regret and wish that they have known the truth earlier. Be it if this will set you thinking about it or otherwise, i mean no harm. If you have any further questions, do not hesitate to msn me, a listening ear is just a click away. LoL...
Thank you for your kind attention.
