.Tuesday, September 11, 2007 ' 4:52 PM Y
Woman, Contradicting Creatures! Discuss
It sparked me to start up a discussion on this topic, about women and her contradicting nature, when I was having a conversation with someone very close to me. She was relating her feelings to me on how she suddenly became G.E.M (Green Eyed Monster) unknowingly and unexpectedly. I was telling her it is natural to feel this way. Woman knows the history of any item, stumbles upon it, BAM! Something starts to tickle the woman’s heart. The G.E.M!
Common topic. Woman wants to know every single little detail about her Man’s past.
Woman asking Man
Woman: Where did this item come from?
Man: My ex gave it to me
Woman: What’s your ex Name? Why did she give it to you? Blah Blah Blah
Man: Are you sure you want to know? You sure after knowing it, you will be ok?
Woman: Of course, I want to know more about you (uh-oh)
Man: *goes into details*
Woman: *keeps silence, pretends to listen attentively but the accumulation of lactic acid in the heart keeps increasing*
Man: You ok?
Woman: Yyyyaaaa….(monotonous)
Man asking Woman
Man: Where did this item come from?
Woman: My ex gave it to me
Man: Ok
Topic closed
you can see that Man knows that knowing too much truth could cause discomfort but woman on the other hand, sigh... hahah .. u know what i mean.
After a 2 hour discussion with my friend, she was telling me that she chooses to communicate her discomfort to him and that whatever action he chooses to take its up to him. But the truth is, Woman do not dare to admit what she really wants the man to do. One hand she says its ok to keep but on the other hand, PREFERS those things to be gotten rid of. I almost fell off the chair. Take Extra note here, the Female species ALWAYS give Male species two options when the fact that only one option can satisfy her. Y doesn’t the Female just say it? Then the Female will say, respecting his decision, do not want to restrict his freedom. Then in turn, will the G.E.M return? No matter how much woman tries to “act tough” playing it cool about it, the truth is, deep down inside its uncomfortable.
Im so thankful that my friend has found someone, whom could counter the G.E.M in her, and win the battle instead.
Woman: *Confesses on the presence of G.E.M*
Man: *pulls her to give her a big hug* . You poor thing ley, being bothered by things that shouldn’t even be a bother in the first place.
Woman: I just want to let you know my feelings and be truthful about it. But I wouldn’t want to be seemed as if im restricting your freedom and space.
Man: I will get rid of it, IF I remember and have the time. But if the next time you see it, you shall help me get rid it of it ok?
Woman: *starts to smile liao lor* but I dun want to be seem too controlling (*man sweat*)
The truth is, is getting rid of items the best option available? What if it is something expensive? What are you going to do with it?
Personally, I feel that somehow it is the best choice available. You can disagree with me but please do not take offence to any comments below. Let me state my view point.
1) In any relationships, there are bound to be times where disagreements may arise and especially woman, who are made up of water, emotions tends to take over. What if something that bothered her in the past all of sudden appears in front of her again? Is it considered a double blow? Its like adding oil to fire.
2) To man, physical items are just physical items. To woman, we tend to think more to it because we know that somehow inside there contains special memories that lead to the existence of the items. My friend was even telling me that things like ornaments can be donated to charity but what about valuables? It cannot be just given to any charity. This is a very very tough decision. You would not want to be throwing bucks away; y not let the bucks flow in for you again? Win-win situation. You would not have any use of it yet you managed to get something out of it? AGAIN, depending on where you are coming from, it is up to individual again. Case to case basis.
3) If items are not gotten rid off, it would be deemed that you are accustomed to it. It may be an assumption that you are OK with having the things lying around? Or could it be the other way round? It is like planting, you find one weed growing, you will pluck it off right? Problem has been identified, y not tackle it before it runs too deep?
Some pointers which my friend’s bf did to tame the G.E.M in woman :-
First, Man should try not be irritated in this area because any first sign of irritation would lead to unhappiness. Note: I use the word try it really depends a lot from what is coming from within. Woman tells you about such things in turn of getting a little attention. Thus a man should reassure their woman instead of getting pissed with them. However, woman in this case, cannot take it for granted and use it ALL THE TIME! Like how we would use tears to “win”. No use if its being used too often.
Secondly, woman should not keep this discomfort inside you for long. As your Man, he wants you to share all thoughts and feelings instead of bottling it inside. I remembered wad Darling tells me, no matter what even trivial matters, to let him know. He does not want me to suffer alone. Man should be the one taking lead in the emotions and not allowing emotions take over the relationship. Men are more rational than woman but the difference lies in whether your Man can control his emotions to tame the intense situation when needed, that is integral. Women just lose it! Terrible! Thus I plea to men out there, pls be gentle with us.. lol
Lastly, woman, try to be less kapo, which is HIGHLY IMPOSSIBLE! By nature, we are Kapo creatures. Curious about everything. Cant be kept in suspense for long. Sometimes, I really pity the Men for needing to go through such torture on understanding women. The fact is Women don’t necessary understand her own self too. We are curious about Everything on earth, yet we are unable to handle the truth when the truth is told. Poor men. The agony of being “shot right in the head” seems inevitable. It’s an never ending mystery. Probably that’s why Women come from Venus.
I find myself at cross roads at times, not knowing where to go or what to do. I used to just swallow back all the unhappiness I have in me, testing my own patience and tolerance. Whats the use if its going to just make one feel miserable??
Conclusion : YES. Women are contradicting creatures. It really does take a lot to love a woman. Whether you choose to take the plunge it’s really up to you...
